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Relationships The Secret To Long Lasting Romance

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Being in love is one of the most beautiful experiences that a person can have. After all, we were made for love. We are made for someone and that is our usual hope and prayer, to be forever intertwined as lovers. If you are madly in love right now, you would probably ask or say, “O how I wish this love of ours to last for a lifetime.” It is easier said than done. The reality is that we need to work on the relationship so that the relationship can work for us. Here are some tips on how to make your relationship last.

One proven way for a long lasting relationship is prayer. Why is prayer included? It is because, in the totality of it, God has a greater plan for our love life. Once we pray together, we find our intentions purified and constantly evaluated to God’s divine standard. Praying enables us to live out God’s way of loving. And that is to be unconditional, honest, and faithful to your love one.

The second is to have simple talks together. A simple talk can lead to beautiful conversations of dreams and plans for both of you to look forward to.

Third is to think big in your relationship. That is not limiting your mindset to just having months together but rather expanding it though years of spending life with your love one. You will have enough reasons to stay in love because you see yourselves still together in the future.

Fourth, is having a regular evaluation and assessment about your relationship. This could be set on a monthly basis. This habit settles the concerns of both parties. It leads to better performance in your relationship since it is evaluated. It gets you from point A to B. It promotes forgiveness, assurance and trust, which are important elements to a long lasting relationship.

Fifth, is spending quality time together. We must not look at the quantity of our time spent but at the quality of it. It is important to regularly spend vacations together, to break out from work and stress and plainly just focus about your relationship together.

Sixth is to strive be the best that you can be. Getting better and better could mean that you are growing in your relationship. If you strive to be the best person, you will give enough reasons for your lover to keep you.

Seventh tip is to seek mentors. Find couples out there who have been there ahead of you. Seek their advice and guidance. They can help you when the going gets tough for you both.

Eight, is to practice the 5 A’s in the relationship. Affirm, Appreciate, Aspire, Assure, Affection

Ninth, is to do what’s the best for you both. Sometimes this involves waiting for the right time in your relationship. Seeing the best is doing what’s the best for you both, even if it entails sacrifice.

Tenth, is to set boundaries in your relationship. It could mean not going out on other dates or occasions where a problem could arise in your relationship.

Eleventh, is to stay true to your commitment. Being honest and loyal are virtues integral to a relationship.

Twelfth, is to indulge in humor. Create funny moments together. Do crazy things worth remembering. Take it easy sometimes. Enjoy the journey. After all, if that person can’t laugh with you, he or she can’t cry with you too.

These twelve tips is your road map to success in your relationship with your lover. Put your heart into it, and your heart will put into what you will do.

Top 10 Lottery Horror Stories

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Not very many people win the lottery, but of those who win, many lose all their winnings and end up with less money than before they won. Some winners were simply foolish, some were greedy, some had greedy relatives and friends, and some fell prey to thieves and crooks. Here are the stories of 10 people who won the lottery then lost it all.

#1 Evelyn Adams

In 1985 AND 1986, Evelyn Adams won the lottery – equaling a total winning of $5.4 million. However, today – she has no money “Winning the lottery isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be,” says Evelyn Adams, who won the New Jersey lottery not just once, but twice (1985, 1986), to the tune of $5.4 million. Today the money is all gone and Adams lives in a trailer. She lost money in slot machines, and couldn’t seem to say no to relatives and friends. Evelyn’s big win ended in a big loss.

#2 William Post

In 1988, William Post won $16.2 million in the Pennsylvania lottery but now lives on his Social Security. Post’s former girlfriend sued him for a share of his winnings and one of his brothers was arrested for hiring a hit man to kill him, hoping to inherit a share of the winnings. His relationship with his other siblings was also strained and he spent some time in jail. Within a year, he was $1 million in debt and eventually declared bankruptcy. He now lives on only $450 a month and food stamps.

#3 Suzanne Mullins

In 1993, Suzanne Mullins won $4.2 million in the Virginia lottery. Now she’s deeply in debt to a company that lent her money using the winnings as collateral. She borrowed $197,746.15 from this company, but eventually stopped making payments on the loan. She blamed the debt on the lengthy illness of her uninsured son-in-law, who needed $1 million for medical bills. Needless to say, her lottery win did not end in happiness.

#4 Ken Proxmire Ken Proxmire won $1 million in the Michigan lottery. Within 5 years he filed for bankruptcy after moving to California and starting a car business with his brothers. He has now returned to his job as a machinist.

#5 Willie Hurt

In 1989, Willie Hurt of Lansing, Mich., won $3.1 million. Only two years later he was broke and charged with murder after spending his fortune on a divorce and crack cocaine.

#6 Janite Lee

In 1993, Janite lee of Missouri won $18 million. Lee was generous to a variety of causes, including various political organizations, education programs and the community services. According to published reports, eight years after winning, Lee had filed for bankruptcy with only $700 left.

#7 Southeastern Family

In the early 1990s, a Southeastern family won $4.2 million. In almost no time at almost all of their winnings were spent on a huge house, cars, and various requests from family members. They bought a huge house and succumbed to repeated family requests for help in paying off debts. Eleven years after winning, the couple got divorced, the house was sold and what was left of their lottery winnings had to be split.

Help! My Ex Is Dating Someone Else – What Is A Rebound Relationship And What Can I Do

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You just broke up with your ex and now she is dating someone else a.k.a a rebound relationship. So, can you get her back and how do you get her back? Well, let’s first discuss what exactly is a rebound relationship. It is a relationship that happens right after a breakup because your ex is trying to get over you.

You see, rebound relationships is a tool that folks use so they don’t have to deal with the pain and emotions of breaking up. In short, they are using other people to move on from a real love (that would be you).

So the key thing to remember about rebound relationships is that she is using another guy to deal with losing you.

And here is another key thing to keep in mind, it really doesn’t matter why she lost you or whether not not it was your fault or hers. All that really matters is you really do have a real love between each other.

And the reason I say this is because just about every single relationship I know of that was real and based on real love can be saved!

Yes! You heard me right. Your relationship can be saved if it was based on true love for each other.

Usually when someone is in a rebound relationship, they are focused on doing the opposite of what your relationship was like. And why? She is trying to avoid the problems that happened with the relationship with you. So if you are a good guy, she will be dating a “bad boy.” Or if you were quiet and introspective, she may be dating a outwardly and bomastic kind of guy. Get the drift. Opposites.

But the very fact that your ex is focusing on the differences between you and the other dude is actually good news for you for 2 reasons. She is still thinking about you while she is with the other guy (the other guy won’t be happy about hearing that!). And the second thing is you can find out exactly what she is looking for in a relationship.

So use the rebound relationship to your advantage to determine what she wants. What she was missing. And use that time apart from her to make little changes in yourself.
Now, this is going to be a little difficult for some guys to take, but let the rebound relationship run its course. Don’t put any pressure on her or freak her out by doing anything stressful. Just relax and wait it out. After a while she will begin to see flaws in him (they mostly do) and after a month or more you are going to start looking a whole lot better to her.

This is why you do not want to rush back to her and fight for your relationship. It is always better to let her find out that she misses the great times she had with you that she isn’t getting from the new guy. But just be ready if she does make an attempt to get back with you. Be nice. Be very gentle and understanding. And above all, be that new and improved model of a boyfriend. But do not chase after her because it is the worst thing you can do. You will actually make her more determined to stick it out with her new boyfriend.

To sum it up. Here is what you will be doing if she is in a rebound relationship:

1) Stay away. Let her figure out that you were the love of her life.

2) If you did something wrong that caused the breakup, only apologize once. Anymore, and you will lose points in her eyes. So apologize if you did wrong just once and then just move on with your life.

3) Stop watching those Hollywood movies for making up tips! Do not make any promises to change because the original you is the guy she fell in love with. However, that doesn’t mean you cannot make some small changes. But don’t tell her that.

4) Don’t use any logic! It doesn’t work. I see this all the time. Folks trying to make the other person see that it wasn’t their fault logically. So don’t do it. Take it for sure that your ex is smart enough to know the difference. On her own.

5) And this is probably the most important advice I can give you. Do not ever beg her to take you back. If you do, you might as well pack it in because it ain’t happening.
So here it is again, you just learned that your ex is in a rebound relationship to get over you. And you do have a fighting chance but you have to give her some room to figure that out on her own. And the key thing is being in a rebound relationship most likely means she is still in love with you. Good luck buddy.

What is Remediation

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The word -remediation- is very important in the work my colleagues and I do with families affected by autism and other neuro-developmental disabilities, but it is a word that is unfamiliar to many people. I thought I would take a moment this week to talk about what remediation means in general, and specifically in the realm of autism.

Let’s start with some basic dictionary definitions:
Remediate (verb) – To remedy a problem
Remedial (adjective) – Intended to correct or improve one’s skill in a specific field; therapeutic, corrective, restorative
Remediation (noun) – Use of remedial methods to improve skills; the act or process of correcting a deficiency

Dr. Steven Gutstein’s definition of remediation: Correcting a deficit to the point where it no longer constitutes and obstacle

My definition: Work ON something, not just around it

Whether you are a parent or professional, it is critical to understand what remediation is, and the distinction between remediation and compensation. Perhaps the most common application of this distinction is in the area of reading problems. If a child is diagnosed with a reading disability, we typically apply remediation approaches to help them learn to read. At various points we may use compensations, such as books on tape, to support them. However, our goal is to remediate, or correct, the problem that is preventing them from reading so they can become functional readers. In my professional experience, I have yet to come across a situation where adults believe that if an 8 year old child is not yet reading, that we should just compensate for that and give them books on tape to listen to for the rest of their lives. Remedial efforts are taken to get to the root of the problem and overcome the issues that are preventing successful reading.

Now take this same concept and apply it to individuals on the autism spectrum. By definition they are struggling in many areas: socialization, communication, thinking flexibly, and the list goes on depending on the person. What approach do we usually take to these deficits? By and large, we take a compensation approach. We find ways to work around these problems so that the students fit into the mold of what we do at home and in school everyday. Our main motivation becomes applying strategies that help them exhibit what we consider to be -typical- behaviors -sit appropriately in the classroom or at church, learn academic skills, play on the playground equipment, wait in line without becoming upset, greet others when we see them, etc. While we may also look for ways to support their communication and to improve their relationships with others, we do this on a very surface level without really understanding the obstacles that create those problems in the first place. And, because we don’t really understand the root issues that create these problems, we resort to compensation techniques rather than remediating the root causes.

When you look at the history of treatments in the field of autism, it has been primarily about compensation. While research on the brain and autism has continued to move forward and provide us new information, our treatment approaches have stagnated. The methods we were using 30 years ago are still the methods being used today, despite the fact that we have a whole host of new information available to us. We now have the capacity to take what we know about the disorder of autism and how it impacts brain function, and develop new techniques and approaches that move beyond compensation and actually work to remediate (correct) the primary features of the disorder. This is one of the exciting things about newer approaches such as the Relationship Development Intervention (RDI) Program, which focuses on remediating, rather than just working around, the core deficits we see in individuals with autism and other neuro-developmental disorders.

It is time to move beyond thinking about treatment as merely capitalizing on strengths, and begin thinking about how to strengthen areas of weakness. Research has shown us that autism is primarily a disorder of connectivity in the brain-with some portions over connected and others under connected. What is so exciting about this is that we know that neural connectivity can change throughout the lifespan. The human brain has an enormous capacity for developing new connections and changing the patterns of connectivity when given the right types of stimulation. This is what allows us to look at autism treatment in a new light. It cannot be merely about strengthening the areas that are already strong. Effective education and treatment must be focused on building new connections in the areas where connectivity is deficient. This is the essence of remediation.

About the Author: Autism specialist Nicole Beurkens, founder and director of the Horizons Developmental Remediation Center, provides practical information and advice for families living with autism and other developmental disabilities. If you are ready to reduce your stress level, enrich your child’s development, and improve your family’s quality of life, get your FREE reports now at ==> www.HorizonsDRC.com

Dating A Pothead – Marijuana And Relationships

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Dating or living with a marijuana addict can be overwhelming. Marijuana addiction will produce turmoil in relationships whether they be with relations, friends or spouses. Folks who smoke pot, tend to hold around with alternative individuals who smoke pot.
This permits the pot user to not feel guilty regarding the amount that they’re smoking. Problems arise in a very relationship when there are different expectations concerning marijuana use, our different levels of use. If you’re sober, hanging out with the one who may be a high constantly isn’t a pleasant experience.
Marijuana addiction forms gradually and gets worse as time goes by. This is often why some people aren’t even aware they have problem. Most potheads will be able to operate well enough in life to get by, however could not remember of how weed is holding them back. They’ll not realize the result that marijuana has had on life, till they take a significant break and are sober for a amount of time.
It is necessary to remember that marijuana is a psychological addiction and that the person you care concerning is captivated with the mental state of being high, and compulsively want to be stoned. This is why they get moody, restless, anxious once they are unable to smoke.
There are two things here. The first scenario is where the marijuana addict is tuned in to their downside and wants to quit, but hasn’t been in a position to. The positive factor concerning the first situation is that you’re able to brazenly speak about the problem and offer support toward the common goal of quitting. The second state of affairs is where the marijuana addict does not wish to admit that they need a drawback or simply a belief that they have a drawback with weed. They may say that people love we tend to, and there is no way that they want to quit. During this case, the road to recovery is abundant rockier.
When you opt to talk to the person concerning their marijuana use, don’t accuse them. Rather, you should explained to them have their marijuana use is affecting you and your relationship with them. You should highlight the positive aspects of quitting marijuana instead of the negative effects you think the drug is having on this persons life. Anyone will learn to prevent smoking marijuana. If you have got a downside with marijuana, or apprehend someone that does and need to assist them, I wish you the most effective of luck. You can make a difference.